{"id":9614,"date":"2020-04-16T19:15:01","date_gmt":"2020-04-16T23:15:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/psymontreal.com\/alex-finds-strength-in-self-compassion\/"},"modified":"2024-02-11T08:47:03","modified_gmt":"2024-02-11T13:47:03","slug":"alex-finds-strength-in-self-compassion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psymontreal.com\/en\/alex-finds-strength-in-self-compassion\/","title":{"rendered":"Alex finds strength in self-compassion"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hardship needs no introduction. It\u2019s all around us and mentioned daily on every news outlet and social media platform.<\/i><\/b><\/h3>\n

This series of articles is not about hardship. It\u2019s about you.<\/span><\/h3>\n

Our newsletter <\/span>Weathering the Storm <\/span><\/i>is a source of curated tips and strategies to help you weather the emotional storm. This newsletter is inspired by actual clients* and written by experienced psychologists<\/span><\/p>\n

*All client names are fictional and presenting issues are composites of client experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Meet Alex*<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Alex has been recently dealing with health issues which have caused him to feel increasingly fatigued and unproductive over the last few weeks.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, despite not feeling his best, he has lots of work to accomplish and still has deadlines to meet for his job. His instinct is to think he should try harder, but he\u2019s upset with himself because he feels he\u2019s not as capable as others around him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our recommendation : self-compassion.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our recommendation<\/span><\/h3>\n

You may be thinking easier said than done ? We agree.<\/span><\/p>\n

To practice self-compassion, it\u2019s helpful to understand the three essential elements it consists of : self-kindness, shared humanity and mindfulness.<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. \n

    Self-kindness<\/strong><\/h4>\n

    If a friend was struggling and feeling bad about themselves, how would Alex respond? He would reassure them by being kind, caring and nonjudgmental. Self-kindness is defined by doing this simple act\u2026 with yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

    In this situation, practicing self-compassion would help Alex avoid self-criticism and disappointment by instead realizing and accepting it\u2019s okay if every item on his daily to-do list is not checked-off.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Our tip<\/em> : To help bring out self-kindness within you, we recommend using the double-standard approach. Read our blog post to find out all you need to know about this technique.<\/a><\/span><\/li>\n

  2. \n

    Shared humanity<\/b><\/strong><\/h4>\n

    Even though we may feel alone, it\u2019s important to remember we are all in this together. Realizing and accepting this lifts a huge weight off our shoulders. On the other hand, refusing to accept the reality we are in increases stress and frustration.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Speaking with friends and reading articles in the news, Alex realizes lots of other people often find it difficult to meet their deadlines. Coming to this realization helps Alex practice self-compassion as his suffering and perceived shortcomings become a reflection of a shared human experience (i.e. working a demanding job when you\u2019re not feeling your best) and not specific to himself.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Our tip : <\/em>When things we can\u2019t control start to get the best of us, why not repeat this simple phrase we recommend in our blog article here – check it out !<\/a><\/span><\/li>\n

  3. \n

    Be mindful<\/strong><\/h4>\n

    When we are feeling frustrated or down, our thoughts and emotions can easily get the best of us.<\/span><\/p>\n

    In this situation, when Alex realizes he is frustrated, he should pause and acknowledge how he\u2019s feeling in the very moment ( \u2018\u2018I\u2019m experiencing frustration\u2019\u2019) and then, without judgment, remind himself emotions are part of life (i.e. \u2018\u2018Frustrations are a part of life\u2019\u2019).<\/span><\/p>\n

    Our tip :\u00a0 <\/i><\/b>Try to be aware of your thoughts and emotions without negatively judging them. Doing this can help prevent destructive emotions and thoughts overpowering us.<\/b><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Practicing self-compassion is easier said than done. But when done, we realize the power it holds. Strung together, moments of self-compassion will not only better our day\u2026 but better our lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

    We welcome you to leave comments as well as questions in the discussion section so we can try to answer some of them in upcoming posts.<\/span><\/p>\n

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    About us<\/strong><\/p>\n

    PsyMontreal is a network of licensed psychologists, psychotherapists and therapists offering psychotherapy services in-person, by phone and via videoconferencing.<\/p>\n

    To schedule an appointment, contact us at 514-337-2473 ext. 0. We\u2019re available 24\/7 to answer your calls.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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    However, despite not feeling his best, he has lots of work to accomplish and still has deadlines to meet for his job. His instinct is to think he should try harder, but he\u2019s upset with himself because he feels he\u2019s not as capable as others around 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